I hardly ever pass negative judgment. I don't really understand how to. I mean, sure I sometimes think people are selfish or insecure, but those aren't necessarily bad things. They’re just things. We all deal with them, some just more than others. I think that people can’t really help how selfish or insecure they are, so why should we consider them character flaws? Sure, for someone interacting with a selfish person, it’s not necessarily pleasant, but then you just have to account for that aspect of his personality and adjust. Perhaps you could let this person talk about himself for a bit longer than you find acceptable for other people. Or maybe you can learn to count on him just a little bit less. The same thing goes for insecure people; their need for constant reassuring might be seen as annoying, but apparently they need it, so why not give it to them. You might not be able to joke around as much with a person like this, but everyone has her own quirks. Perhaps you could go out of your way to throw her a compliment every now and then. You could compliment her to be a nice person and help make her day a little bit brighter, or if you are a selfish person, perhaps you could compliment her in hopes that your compliment will help to permanently raise her self-esteem. And if this happens, you won’t have to be careful around her anymore, and maybe she’ll even stop talking about how fat/ugly/stupid she is all the time!
If more people understood that things like selfishness and insecurities cannot always be controlled, I think that the world would run a bit more smoothly. We could all accommodate for individual’s personalities and learn how to make each other happier.
I should start a campaign. Perhaps I should post flyers:
“ATTENTION EVERYONE: ACCOMMODATE FOR OTHER’S PERSONALITIES WHEN YOU INTERACT WITH THEM. SUCK IT UP AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND.” Maybe I could hold a seminar and explain it. It would be very nice if people understood.
If people really did understand, we could all wear labels with short descriptions of our personalities. We could make special codes and symbols for them to make it easier but more complicated because I think people like that. I don’t really know why that is. If everyone knew what other people’s personalities were, and also knew how to interact with different personalities, we could treat each other correctly and always be the best versions of ourselves. That would be nice.
Nice one this is interesting.
ReplyDeleteGood thoughts going on,
Sometimes people are selfish or insecure but those aren’t necessarily bad things, they’re just things.
Is a really nice way at looking at personality and I’m not sure what to call it, interaction, social interaction, understanding people, empathy.
ATTENTION EVERYONE: ACCOMMODATE FOR OTHER’S PERSONALITIES WHEN YOU INTERACT WITH THEM. SUCK IT UP AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND
This is interesting; I get the funny feeling that unless this idea is already an integral part of your personality,
It would mean changing, who you are depending on who you’re with, or I suppose it would be the way you are depending on who you’re with.
I imagine a lot of people would find this hard and wonder if it will it allow for social interactions with people to flow, maybe...
Also would it allow for individual
personalities to soar freely and fly, or mean that a person’s wings of personality become clipped?
I guess that would all depend on who you’re interacting with,
Possibly in some cases of social interaction our personalities would become like blank canvases whose finished pictures will rely entirely on the artists and paints that we meet,
Surely there’s got to be a time when individual personality would be allowed to let loose, no sucking up, or maybe you choose specific people to suck it up with and let loose with others, I guess thats where an individuals understanding of other people would take over,
I just hope whoever comes up with the people labels gets it right,
This is making me think plus two wacky metaphors in one day, so hats off and thanks for that,
I love this sort of thing, personalities and different ways of interaction are very interesting.
Its made me realise that in the pursuit of happiness life is easy when our personalities and others click in such a way that there’s no reason to suck anything up.
When you can just blow it all out, and everyone understands you are a lucky bean indeed.
I see accommodating for others personalities as a worthy cause in the understanding of people,
but wish there was no need and that all our personalities just flowed beautifully together, I guess in a kind of funny way they do.
Are you going to hold that seminar? I think someone should.
Understands, Overflies.